Happy 30th to me.
Last month was my birthday when I unstoppably turned to the big number 30. =)
Firstly, I’m very grateful to have reached this age because not everyone gets to celebrate their 30th birthday. My older brother, for example, passed away at 29 and to be honest, I was worried I’ll die at 29, too. Ha! I think it’s when a part of your family dies that you truly realize how uncertain life can be. You don’t know, one day, you won’t wake up and that’s the end for you. So I was thinking if my Kuya died young, I could die young too. With those thoughts in mind, I always make sure to live my life the way I want it to be. It’s not always perfect but at least I’m trying.
I appreciate and love life so celebrating my first three decades in this world is very important to me. For those who know me since I was a kid, they would know that I rarely had birthday parties. Even on my 18th birthday, when usually a young woman would have this extravagant debut parties, I only had a cake and we ate at home with my family. I also remember just a simple meal with friends and relatives during my high school years. Besides, August is always a rainy season month so I remember my birthday being wet and cold which means that it was difficult to plan and invite people.
However, for this year, I decided on having a small gathering and invite my relatives and friends over. My goal is to see them all together in one place. And so, inviting them for my birthday seemed to be the solution. As I said in my previous posts, I have many relatives and close friends. As much as I love to see each one of them individually, it’s impossible.
At first, I planned on celebrating in a cool venue including catering services and all but I was advised against it for it wasn’t practical. It would cost me more compared to if I celebrate at home and prepare the food ourselves. In the end, thanks to my aunts, uncles, lolos, and lolas who cooked for my birthday, I was able to choose foods I want more reasonably.
My one aunt, for example, made a dessert (Maja Blanca) and the other bought my cake =) Then, another lola, lent us her precious platters since we needed more for the servings. Another helped out with the decorations on that day. Lastly, my mommy, who whatever I asked for, would always provide for me from her store. Ha! I could go on and on and on of all these kindness I received on my birthday which I’m very grateful of. I felt loved and blessed to have these wonderful people in my life on my special day.
Lechon & Karaoke
At first, I didn’t think about having lechon until my cousin jokingly requested for it. Because I love him dearly- I hope he’s reading this part- I ordered one. Besides, I never had Lechon ever before but since I’m going 30, I agreed to have my first. So, there’s that. Lechon is, by the way, one of the favorites to eat of many Filipinos during special celebrations.
The karaoke was also unplanned. My lola , who knew someone who has karaoke for rent, talked to me in the morning and asked me if I wanted one. I thought karaoke would add to the entertainment portion at my party because I was sure, many would want to sing. I wasn’t mistaken. =)
Ultimately, it was a birthday celebration I will not easily forget. I was very content seeing my relatives and friends that night. Oh, my dear friends, who came and left at 5 the next morning. It was incredible to see them again and talk to them for a very long time. Our topics of conversation were anything and everything under the sun. I was thankful for their time and the good laughs we had.
What changed that I’m 30? Nothing much. Really. Many people I met even guessed my age as 25-28 years old. There was also one time, I was jogging around our compound when some men/tambays talked to me and asked me, “Are you new here?”, “Are you a student?”. You see, that was the best kind-of-compliment I got this year. =)
Maybe, physically, nothing much has changed for me but the way I see things now and my plans have evolved and become more serious and fixed. I guess that’s how life changes when you’re an adult.
Unmarried at 30
On the day of my birthday, my sweet sweet cousin, who requested the Lechon, commented and said, “Ira, you’re 30 and still not married?!”. My answer was, “Yeah, what’s the problem with that?”. I’m right, am I not?
So, I told this story to my friends who are all single too. It was one of our deep talk conversations that night. We were pondering reasons why we were still unmarried. For me, the explanation is very simple- it’s because we are on a different generation now- when we have big dreams and plans for our future and our future family. But for those who are married and have kid/s, know that you’re lucky too.
Thank you so very much to everyone who came and helped out on my birthday. Also to all who sent their greetings and well wishes on social media. I appreciate all of you and my heart was full that day until today that I am writing this post.